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Are you lacking in motivation and feeling hopeless?

30/1/2013

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Author Vijyalaxmi Kara

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 People may lack motivation for some of the following reasons: 

  • They think that all the effort in the world won’t let them achieve what they would like.

    They don’t have a clear idea about what they would like

    Fear of failing because of past failures.

    Sheer feeling of hopelessness due to depression caused by various factors.

    The thought that we are going to die someday anyway so what's the point.

Let me illustrate a point with a little story told by Parmahansa Yogananda


Two frogs fell into a bucket of milk.  The bucket was quite deep so there was no way they could get out.   Through natural instinct they started swimming.  One frog thought there is no way we can get out of this so might as well give up.  So he gave up and of  course death followed. The second frog thought “I am probably going to die any way but let me keep swimming as long as I can then at least I will have the satisfaction that I tried  my best until the end and I might just discover something that I don’t know.”  So he kept swimming and swimming and swimming with all his might.  At this point his tiny little legs got really tired.   He got to a point where he could not swim any more and to his amazement he found that all his continuous swimming had churned the milk into butter. He stepped on the butter and leaped out. 
 
The moral of the story is that if we keep trying as long as we can, then the divine grace comes to us, granting us clarity and direction to make the next move in life.   Life is a dance between us and the divine.  We move and he moves.  He cannot dance on his own.

By Vijyalaxmi Kara

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Coping with the death of a loved one

30/1/2013

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Author Vijyalaxmi Kara  ©2013Vijyakara

Death of any loved one is one of the most difficult and strange experiences to deal with but especially the death of a child. For a parent to lose a child is an unnatural order.  We expect to go before our children so the pain of passing of the child is unbearable. The most powerful and full proof solution to death is the path of spirituality.  It is a fact that we are all one. There is the all pervading spirit that resides in all of us through which we are all connected.  So if we can truly connect with ourselves we will feel the connection with our loved one. This is a very deep subject and needs to be explained well to the bereaved but I can only say that it is a fact and it is possible to ease and ultimately be free from the pain of death.

Most people have so much attachment to the bodies that they believe they are the bodies and like wise they feel that their loved ones also are the bodies.   With understanding we realize that it was the breath or the pran that was real. The proof of this is that as soon as the pran leaves, the body has no value.  Everyone knows this and yet they can not comprehend the higher truth.  
 
Knowing this fact intellectually and yet falling apart when death occurs, is what is known as being entangled in “maya” or illusion .  
 
When death occurs suddenly the veil of maya opens up for the bereaved and they experience intense pain of separation.  If we can constantly live outside of this illusion and yet be in this world then we are able to face death with ease and see the whole life as a game  or “leela” and nothing more.Yes this is possible. 

I am aware that this is easily said than done but I only have the courage to write this because I practice this.  

We are all spiritual beings having a human experience.   Any tragic event will throw us if we are not aware of this.  I agree that spiritual explanations do seem abstract until you experience them.  That is why I would urge everyone to get as much understanding as they can about spirituality and be open to it.  I am not talking about sectarian religion here. Our essential nature is spiritual. Until we become aware of this, we continue to suffer human tragedies.   We don’t have to believe everything we hear or read but we must not discard it either.

Practical suggestions for family and friends:

Eating  regular meals and drinking  plenty of fluids is vital at this stage .  Low energy levels can cause depression.  I would encourage family and friends to cook for the bereaved.  Food lovingly cooked and served by others can work wonders.  This increases our interaction with the bereaved and transference of good energy helps to heal the emotions. 

Suggestion for the bereaved

If possible hold daily prayer meetings or meditation or some spiritual reading sessions at least for 10 days open to all who would like to pay their respects.  This provides a smooth transition period. We have this in some cultures and would suggest all cultures to adopt such a system.  
 
You will want to talk about your loved one all the time.  But at some point you will have to realize that you also have to get on with your life which is just as precious and also there may be others in your care who need your attention.   
  
Get back to normal routine as soon as you can.   You will still go through many episodes of tears but let them be.  Cry if you want to but don’t drown your self in self pity.  Few minutes of crying give emotions of grief a good release but too much crying can be draining and does not serve you well.  
 
When you are back on your feet do something in the memory of your loved one if you have the need to keep the memory alive.  For example supporting a charity or setting up something yourself.    

A word of caution for the bereaved is not to become too dependent on friends and relatives because ultimately we must learn to stand on our own feet. 
 
By Vijyalaxmi Kara


 
 
 
 
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Staying Healthy and Youthful 

27/1/2013

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My passion to serve humanity

19/11/2012

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Other than my profession as a musician my main purpose in life is to serve humanity. For this, In July 2008  I founded a UK registerd charity Inner Joy Foundation www.innerjoyfoundation.org  which benefits orphans and underprivileged in India and also helps communities in the UK.   Home page

Please revisit to read my life enhancing  blog posts.  I will be adding new posts at least once a week.

Vijya Kara

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